Chamber of Wholeness

Wholeness and the Inner Center

In fact, wholeness is often confused with the state of “everything is fine” or “I am coping.” Of course, this is not only about outward well-being.
Of course, a person’s inner gatheredness is much more important. Moreover, a whole person is not someone who has no problems at all.
It is someone who does not fall apart under the pressure of circumstances.
In addition, such a person has a center, a point of support and an inner Zero, which we speak about in other spheres.
When a person is whole, their instinct, intuition and intellect work in harmony.
Naturally, they feel the body and distinguish the signals it is trying to send.

When wholeness is lost, a person begins to fall apart inwardly and live “in relation to.” In relation to a neighbor, in relation to “what is accepted,” in relation to what others will say and think.

How Wholeness Is Lost

It is worth noting that the process of losing wholeness begins almost imperceptibly.
In childhood, a person is usually closer to natural gatheredness.
A child knows what they want, strives for independence and very early says their first “I’ll do it myself.”

First of all, a child has the right to make mistakes. They fall and get up, try, make mistakes, learn, take things apart, put them back together and reach for experience again.
Their center of gravity is below, and their attention is directed upward. They are like a sphere.

Then upbringing gradually begins, where the child’s sphere is pushed into a square and constantly pointed toward its corners.
After that, the familiar phrases appear: “you must not do that,” “that is not accepted,” “that is improper,” “people are looking at you,” a bad mark, a reprimand, an ultimatum.

As a result, a person is taught to orient themselves toward the outside: toward grades, opinions, rules, expectations and other people’s reactions.
Consequently, the center of gravity shifts. Instead of seeking support within, a person begins to seek it outside.
Namely: in money, status, approval, correctness, habitual order and public opinion.
In that case, wholeness is gradually lost.

Roughly speaking, a person turns from a sphere into a square, and then into a triangle.
By old age, such a triangle seems to flatten toward its base: energy flows down to the legs, while attention clings to external objects.

Support and hope are more and more often transferred outward: to children, pension, circumstances, the state or someone else’s care.
At the same time, a person may forget that life is not measured only by length.
Undoubtedly, life can be a full-flowing river. Besides length, it has width, depth, power, fullness, speed of current and quality of water.
Of course, one can live long and calmly, like a caterpillar. However, one can also live expansively, having learned to fly.

The Right to Make Mistakes

It is worth noting that a child has a natural right to make mistakes.
For them, it is normal to fall and get up, break and take toys apart, try, imagine, get confused and search again.
Even a child’s invention becomes part of the experience through which they learn the boundaries of the world.
In other words, lying to a child is undesirable, but imagining, trying versions and checking reality is natural for them.
In that case, a mistake is not yet equal to catastrophe. It is more like a step.

Adults gradually have the right to make mistakes taken away from them. First this is done through shame and punishment.
Then school reinforces fear with bad marks. Educational institutions add pass and fail. Work answers with reprimand, dismissal and loss of status.
The environment hangs labels on them: “loser,” “strange,” “not quite right.”

Naturally, as a person grows up, an inner rod should appear for stability.
For example, rules, principles, honor, conscience and dignity.
However, these rules should serve the person’s own inner orientation.
They are needed for their support, not so that other people can manage them more conveniently through their good qualities.
Based on this, a person must first learn to respect themselves.
Then it is worth learning to take themselves into account, so that later it will not be painfully bitter for missed opportunities and time spent only on maintaining an outer face.

Be Like Children

When people say “be like children,” this can be understood as a call to restore the ability to fall and get up.
Then to restore the center of gravity, that is, to stand firmly on one’s own feet again. After that, to learn to make independent decisions and take responsibility for them.
In addition, it is important to learn to accept help without hoping to shift one’s own life onto others.
Then to return attention forward and upward. This means relying on what has been lived through, but not holding onto it with a dead grip.
First of all, to return the right to make mistakes. An adult often loses this right and begins to live not from the center, but in relation to something else.
For example, in relation to a neighbor, in relation to “what is accepted,” in relation to what people will say.
As a result, a person with closed eyes can no longer take a step, either physically or inwardly.
They need external support because the connection with their own center has weakened.

Wholeness Begins with the Body

Understanding alone is not enough, because the body stores experience deeper than words. First of all, it is important to return to the body, to the sacrum, to the center of gravity and to inner support.
Suvorov knew this in his own way: feet should be warm, the stomach empty, the head cold.
If the head forgets, the body still knows where the center is. It remembers how to fall and get up, what balance is.
It feels support before thought has time to find an explanation.
We do not need to create ourselves anew. We need to remember. To return to the body, to the center, to our own Zero.
Here, Zero is not emptiness, but potential.
In that case, the return will begin. It is rarely quick and straight. Rather, it moves in leaps, like everything living.

Old Age Begins with the Loss of Support

Old age can be considered not only as age. In this theme, it is more like a state when the center of gravity shifts and support goes outside.
In that case, the legs are the first to lose connection with the earth. Not necessarily physically.
As a rule, a person simply stops feeling inner stability and begins to hold onto the surrounding space with their eyes.
Rejuvenation, in this sense, begins with the legs. One can close the eyes and try to catch balance without holding oneself by sight onto the outer world.
Then take a few slow steps and feel where support appears.

At first glance, this may be difficult, because it is more familiar for a person to seek support outside than to trust their own body again.
However, this very practice returns attention downward, into the foundation, into the living point of presence.
In general, help from specialists, loved ones and external supports can be very important.
At the same time, responsibility for one’s body, state and movement remains with the person themselves.
Help can be accepted, but the inner decision is still born inside.

A Child Knows Where the Center Is

A child is steady on their feet in their own way. The phrase “I’ll do it myself” is not simply a whim. It is the instinct of independence.
It is worth noting: in children, curiosity is often faster than fear.
A child is moved by interest, and interest is not only the engine of progress, but also the engine of life itself. Everything exists while it is of interest.
A child’s attention is directed upward: toward the sky, stars, movement, new objects, words and discoveries.
They do not yet live in constant comparison and evaluation. They learn the world through sensations, trial and their own response.

A child is like a sphere because they are whole and centralized.
Their center of gravity is below, attention is upward, support is inside, and movement is naturally connected with interest.

A child’s wholeness does not mean the absence of difficulties.
It means they have not yet split into separate roles, expectations, fears and other people’s judgments.

An adult can return this state. Not become a child literally, but return to the child inside the right to make mistakes.
Then the right to “I’ll do it myself.” Also the right to free movement.
It is worth noting — the right to one’s own life.

Being Oneself

So, wholeness is not perfect order on the outside.
It is like remaining gathered inside, feeling the center, hearing the body and restoring support to oneself.
As a consequence, the loss of wholeness begins where a person forgets their own center and begins to live in relation to someone else’s gaze.
The return begins where they again feel the legs, the body, and naturally, that very Zero and the right to make mistakes.
In fact, a child shows the first image of wholeness.
An adult can return this image at a new level, already with experience, honor, responsibility and an inner rod.

In general, wholeness is when a person stands on their own feet, feels the body, sees the direction and preserves the right to be themselves.

So the center returns through attention. Then support returns through the body.
In that case, strength returns through independence, and life itself returns through interest.

In essence, wholeness returns to a person the right to be themselves.
Through the body, support, mistake, interest and independence. As a result, a person gathers into a living whole.
In that case, they already stand on their own feet in their own life, feel their center, see the direction and preserve the inner right not to lose themselves among other people’s expectations.

❤️ 88 from the Universe itself