Chamber of Wholeness

Wholeness and the Inner Center

Indeed, wholeness is often confused with the state of “everything is fine” or “I am coping.” Of course, this is not only about external well-being.
The inner collectedness of a person is much more important. Moreover, a whole person is not someone who has no problems at all.
This is someone who does not fall apart under the pressure of circumstances.
In addition, such a person has a center, a point of support and an inner Zero, which we speak about in other spheres.
When a person is whole, instinct, intuition and intellect work in agreement.
It goes without saying that they feel the body and distinguish the signals it is trying to send.

When wholeness is lost, a person begins to fall apart inwardly and live “relatively.” Relative to a neighbor, relative to “what is accepted,” relative to what others will say and think.

How Wholeness Is Lost

It is worth noting that the process of losing wholeness begins almost imperceptibly.
In childhood, a person is usually closer to natural collectedness.
A child knows what they want, strives for independence and very early says their first “I can do it myself.”

First of all, a child has the right to make a mistake. They fall and get up, try, make mistakes, learn, take apart, put together and reach for experience again.
Their center of gravity is below, while their attention is directed upward. They resemble a sphere.

Then upbringing gradually begins, where the child’s sphere is pushed into a square, constantly pointing out its corners.
After that, familiar phrases appear: “you cannot do that,” “that is not accepted,” “that is indecent,” “people are looking at you,” a bad mark, a reprimand, an ultimatum.

As a result, a person is taught to orient themselves toward the external: toward grades, opinions, rules, expectations and someone else’s reaction.
Consequently, the center of gravity shifts. Instead of looking for support in themselves, a person begins to look for it outside.
Namely: in money, status, approval, correctness, habitual order and public opinion.
In this case, wholeness is gradually lost.

Roughly speaking, a person changes from a sphere into something square, and then triangular.
By old age, such a triangle seems to flatten toward its base: energy flows down to the feet, while attention clings to external objects.

Support and hope are more and more often moved outward: onto children, pension, circumstances, the state or someone else’s care.
At the same time, a person may forget that life is measured not only by length.
Without doubt, life can be a full-flowing river. Besides length, it has width, depth, power, fullness, speed of current and quality of water.
Of course, one can live long and quietly, like a caterpillar. However, one can also live expansively, having learned to fly.

The Right to Make a Mistake

It is worth noting that a child has a natural right to make a mistake.
For them, it is normal to fall and get up, break and take apart toys, try, imagine, get confused and search again.
Even a child’s invention becomes part of the experience through which they learn the boundaries of the world.
In other words, it is undesirable to lie to a child, but imagining, trying versions and checking reality is natural for them.
In that case, a mistake is not yet equal to a catastrophe. It is more like a step.

Adults are gradually deprived of the right to make a mistake. At first this is done through shame and punishment.
Then school fixes fear through bad marks. Educational institutions add pass and fail. Work answers with reprimand, dismissal and loss of status.
The surrounding world hangs labels on a person: “loser,” “strange,” “not right in the head.”

It goes without saying that as a person grows up, an inner rod should appear for stability.
For example, rules, principles, honor, conscience and dignity.
However, these rules should serve the person’s own inner orientation.
They are needed for support, not so that someone can manage them more conveniently through their good qualities.
Based on this, it is first of all important for a person to learn to respect themselves.
Then it is worth learning to take themselves into account, so that later it will not be painfully bitter for missed opportunities and time spent only on maintaining an external face.

Be Like Children

When people say “be like children,” this can be understood as a call to restore the ability to fall and get up.
Then to restore the center of gravity, that is, to stand firmly on one’s own feet again. After that, to learn to make independent decisions and take responsibility for them.
In addition, it is important to learn to accept help without hoping to shift one’s own life onto others.
Then to return attention forward and upward. This means relying on what has been passed, but not holding on to it with a dead grip.
First of all — to restore the right to make a mistake. An adult often loses this right and begins to live not from the center, but relatively.
For example, relative to a neighbor, relative to “what is accepted,” relative to what people will say.
As a result, with closed eyes a person can no longer take a step, either physically or inwardly.
They need external support because the connection with their own center has weakened.

Wholeness Begins with the Body

Understanding alone is not enough, because the body stores experience deeper than words. First of all, it is important to return to the body, to the sacrum, to the center of gravity and to inner support.
Suvorov knew this in his own way: the feet should be warm, the stomach empty, the head cold.
If the head forgets, the body still knows where the center is. It remembers how to fall and get up, what balance is.
It feels support before thought has time to find an explanation.
We do not need to create ourselves anew. We need to remember. To return into the body, into the center, into our own Zero.
Zero here is not emptiness, but potential.
In this case, the return will begin. It is rarely fast and straight. More precisely, it moves in leaps, like everything living.

Old Age Begins with the Loss of Support

Old age can be considered not only as age. In this topic, it is more like a state in which the center of gravity shifts and support goes outward.
In that case, the feet are the first to lose connection with the earth. Not necessarily physically.
As a rule, a person simply stops feeling inner stability and begins to hold onto the surrounding space with their eyes.
Rejuvenation, in this sense, begins with the feet. One can close the eyes and try to catch balance without holding oneself with the gaze onto the outer world.
Then take a few slow steps and feel where support appears.

At first glance, this may be difficult, because it is more habitual for a person to seek support outside than to trust their own body again.
However, precisely this kind of practice returns attention downward, to the foundation, to the living point of presence.
In general, help from specialists, loved ones and external supports can be very important.
At the same time, responsibility for one’s body, state and movement remains with the person themselves.
Help can be accepted, but the inner decision is still born inside.

A Child Knows Where the Center Is

A child is stable on their feet in their own way. The phrase “I can do it myself” is not simply a whim. It is the instinct of independence.
It is worth noting: in children, curiosity is often faster than fear.
A child is moved by interest, and interest is not only the engine of progress, but also the engine of life itself. Everything exists as long as it is of interest.
The child’s attention is directed upward: toward the sky, stars, movement, new objects, words and discoveries.
They do not yet live in constant comparison and evaluation. They learn the world through sensations, trial and their own response.

A child resembles a sphere because they are whole and centered.
Their center of gravity is below, attention is upward, support is inside, and movement is naturally connected with interest.

A child’s wholeness does not mean the absence of difficulties.
It means that they have not yet fallen apart into separate roles, expectations, fears and other people’s judgments.

An adult can restore this state. Not become a child literally, but return to the child within themselves the right to make a mistake.
Then the right to “I can do it myself.” Also the right to free movement.
It is worth noting — the right to one’s own life.

Being Oneself

So, wholeness is not an ideal order outside.
It is still about remaining collected inside, feeling the center, hearing the body and returning support to oneself.
Consequently, the loss of wholeness begins where a person forgets their own center and begins to live relative to someone else’s gaze.
The return begins where they feel their feet, the body and, of course, that very Zero and the right to make a mistake again.
Indeed, a child shows the first image of wholeness.
An adult, however, can return this image on a new level, already with experience, honor, responsibility and an inner rod.

In general, wholeness is when a person stands on their own feet, feels the body, sees the direction and preserves the right to be themselves.

So the center returns through attention. Then support returns through the body.
In this case, strength returns through independence, and life itself returns through interest.

In essence, wholeness returns to a person the right to be themselves.
Through the body, support, mistake, interest and independence. As a result, a person gathers into a living whole.
In that case, they already stand on their own feet in their own life, feel their center, see the direction and preserve the inner right not to lose themselves among other people’s expectations.

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